Last time, we talked about the extended family and its advantages. It’s nice and all, but everything is not without the other side of the story. Oftentimes, living under one roof with an extended family may entail some unanticipated problems which would be detrimental to the relationship between family members.
We’ve gotten the pros of having a close extended family out of the way, and now, we’re here to talk about the cons. So let’s start.
This one is rather obvious, don’t you think? A sufficient living environment is required to accommodate all family members. Taking into account the number of rooms and people using facilities such as the bathroom or kitchen, a crowded household can pose problems for members within a common living space, such as the lack of spaces to sleep in or inadequate consumables. Overcrowding can be unhealthy to children physically and emotionally, so it’s a strong disadvantage in any case.
The most apparent way to solve the overcrowding problem is to increase the living space. Another method is to add more facilities for everyone to use.
- Lack of privacy
We can all agree that some alone time is needed. But in a crowded home, keeping one’s privacy might be difficult. Those in school especially need to be alone to study and do their homework and they might find it hard to concentrate with people around them.
What about adults’ quiet night for relaxation? The last thing they need are people pestering them around after a stressful day at work! It may also be a headache for those living with their in-laws, as with this case.
A way to solve this is to impose a specific schedule on when children or relatives may stay in one area. In the case of studying, it’s best to have a place where the youngsters can do so.
If you think an overcrowded household is bad, wait till other members bring in visitors! Imagine teenagers having their friends over for a slumber party. This might disturb older members of the family and may cause arguments to break out.
Because of this, members of the family—particularly the young ones—would have to plan social gatherings well in advance and inform the rest of the family members.
- Negative influences
Parents in a household may not smoke or drink and they’d probably want their children to follow lead. But what about that relative who binges on alcohol or smokes like a chimney? What about older cousins who constantly engage in mischief?
Children may view all that as acceptable even at their age as they see those older than them engage in such things. Negative influences are indeed factors which may affect how children will turn out as they grow older.
Therefore, parents must keep their children close and urge relatives not to engage in vices and mischievous activities—at least in front of the kids.
Living close with relatives in a single home may not be the best choice, but despite all the cons, it can be quite rewarding as I’ve pointed out in the previous entry. So are you okay living together in one household with your relatives? You might want to share your thoughts!